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My area of work for many years as a clinical psychologist has been in trauma and attachment. Often the people who come to see me come because becoming a parent has unlocked long-buried feelings about their own childhood experiences, which they are desperate not to pass on to their own children. Desperate is a word I choose purposefully, there can be a panic associated with the sort of relational and attachment trauma that people come to therapy with, a need for those feelings to be resolved - and fast.
We all have wounds, of course, from our relationships and our experiences. But some wounds are deep, and make us protect ourselves from further harm. Other wounds are shallow, but they come unpredictably so we are always waiting for the next blow.
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