To trust our elders

A little bit about spidey senses

Something I learned from one of my children is how powerful it can be to read someone’s ‘nervous system’ and see how different that can feel to what they are trying to convey to you. I guess this might be quite a common autistic-to-non-autistic communication difference. I think it might also be an autistic-to-highly-masked-autistic communication difference (maybe more so when someone is holding tight to their mask for very important reasons of safety and fear of what is underneath).

If I don’t say what I’m thinking then I can feel like I’m lying, I’ve never been able to leave things unresolved and if there are hidden meanings or unspoken things or feelings in the air that I don’t understand, I know now that I won’t be able to focus on other things and that I will be deeply uncomfortable about that discrepancy ‘in the air’.